I think I'm doing the right thing, I'm not taking private volunteer private chats, I'm too creeped by the weird ones, it's a shame because there are genuine people in need of help but I'm mentally fragile so I can't deal with that.
There was an interesting post about people's expectations of Listeners and it surprised me that people wanted a friend-type approach which is so wrong to me.
That means they rely on you, get used to you and worse fixate on you, there's a couple people, well a fair few that when they lose their Listener, typically I feel because of burnout....
Too many latching on to them, the member just feels lost, not good in my opinion.
I don't think my view would be that popular, one acquaintance expressed her opinion on boundaries and had the majority disagreeing, hmmm...
I don't mind lending support in the public forums, those are moderated better I think.
Even if you want to block, you have to give a reason why, it was easier to deal with the undesirables on trolls on HearMe, I liked that aspect.
Plus they had a proper Guide for those that needed to compress after a gruelling chat, on 7 Cups, you fend for yourself, the help to me is non existent.
They advertise it heartily but when you go on, it's just basic and asking the wrong questions and no way to explain without breaking confidentiality, which you can't do either.
You're stuck, lost and overwhelmed, not a good feeling, when all you are trying to do is assist someone feel better and you yourself end up feeling yucky.
Ugh the UC stuff is taking three times as long. I don't want to queue at the library to do printouts and wait around for the employers to help out but neither do I want to show my email.
I hate my privacy being invaded, none of those choices are making me feel good.
If I go to the library that means less sleep, waking up early from a bad sleep and then waiting around for my appointment.
I've lost my appetite but I'll eat something simple, I like those mini chicken griddlers. I wonder if the hummus has expired..
At least I'm enjoying the new games, challenging my brain. The bad thing about not spending a lot on takeout is no leftovers for tomorrow..
Although if I got pizza, I would have but I didn't fancy it, the good thing is the pennies stretch further.
