#BlogLife858 - Forcing friendships

Why is the latest thing on a chatroom to receive a friend request without having a first conversation?

Is this like men collecting phone numbers and not using them, a bragging thing?

I don't really understand the purpose. Would you walk up to someone in the street that you hadn't met before and say..

Let's be besties. I know instantly we are alike and will get on famously.

Even though I have no people skills and are in a different stage of life to you and deep down I'm not a nice person, I'm super clingy... Etc.

It makes no sense. Why not send a private message, introduce yourself and something simple like, I read your profile, it spoke to me, I'd like to get to know you better....

Very simple, easy and a much better way to partially guarantee a response.

What I've also noticed is that a lot of non UK males, are eager to chat to the UK fems, why?

It's obvious that the language doesn't translate, the slang, the humour, none of it.

I only bother if I'm at a loose end. I understand being curious about a different culture or lifestyle to your own but not if you judge it and don't fully understand it and refuse to be respectful.

Maybe females are different though because this blog gets hardly any UK attention, it's mostly from around the world.

And it's always been that way, right from my humble beginnings.

Anyway these thoughts just popped into my head and I didn't want to forget them but I really need to switch off and relax now.

The pain's still lingering but I enjoyed tonight's episode of The Chelsea Detective.

Actually it's kinda nice that's there's no romantic work tension and that although they gently tease each other, they're friends and lend support where needed.

I think me and HM reached a natural breaking point tonight.

I can be tolerant if someone's not perfect or thoughtless at times, except when I'm hormonal or in physical pain.

So I explained that I hurt my arm/shoulder and wasn't feeling great.

And it would have been nice if he said Oof that must've made your day challenging, do you wanna talk about it?

But no lol, there was none of that, he went into flirt mode so what I did, was ignore him, so he chat up himself.

Eventually he left, then returned, then said enjoy your night and I wished him the same.

But then he was like Oh you're replying now, I left because you didn't seem talkative.

So then I just let him have it. I said you didn't respect my wishes so I ignored you and if you flirt, I'll repeat it.

Ooh he was not pleased. I love that he responded with Ignoring someone isn't nice.

As that made me laugh. All I had to say was, You were happy enough to ignore my wishes.

I'm just doing the same. I was thinking this whole conversation seems recycled.

The whole reason I distanced myself from him was that he only cares about himself.

And he has this angry tirade, Oh you knew what I was like.

Then I had to point out, its a woman's prerogative to evolve.

You've changed, not me ha.

He thought because I let him get away with selfish behaviour,  that I'd always accept it.

The thing with me is, sometimes it doesn't concern me. 

I don't take it personally, I'm enjoying the company and that's that.

Other times when I'm sick and feeling my needs loud and clear.

I know it's time to weed out the undesirables, those that are desperate or clingy or rude or disrespectful. 

Because this is the time where I wanna hear..

Something soothing.. Like it won't be forever, look after yourself.

I have some funny stories to entertain you with and because I know you're stressed..

I'm not going to be sleazy.

Ha! Yeah right, like that conversation would ever happen.

There's no decent guy to show my softer side too.

It's the same result every time. Ohhh I get it.

I'll tell you what to do and your needs will be forgotten. 

Everybody's happy right? Wrong!! I remain unfulfilled!!

A lil update actually. I think I slept better and deeply and the majority of the pain has subsided, thank heavens.