#BlogLife294 - The reason you're ignored.. Updating

..Is because of lazy conversation starters.. Turn these around if you expect any type of response. Bear in mind how competitive it is, you need a hook..

1. How's you?

No shortcuts, just say How are you? That will make the other person realise, hmm he/she has a brain and isn't too slovenly to use it.

2. Tell me about you?

Nobody likes vagueness. Be specific and it will be way more engaging, instead of the other person floundering and being unsure what information to share.

3. What are your hobbies? What is your occupation? What...

Stick to one question, unless they are related to each other. 

Flooding someone with enquiries proves you have no conversation skills.

4. Talking of which, today..... 

Don't just ask question after question, mix in some personal stories or anecdotes, other wise it's just debate mode Zzz

5. I'm bored

Never say that because it instantly makes you sound uninteresting and that you can't entertain yourself.

6. Make your feedback and inquisitiveness delicate and intriguing.

Find fun ways to phrase things and answer, make it amusing but still provide the relevant information. Possibly a play on words..

7. Don't go under or overboard.

Keep it light and playful. Nobody needs your life story and heavy details, straight away, just keep it informative but a tiny bit vague.

8. Keep it mostly relevant.

It's tempting to go off on random tangents because there's a great story involved but if you do it too often, it will be hard to keep up and confusing for the listener.

Your goal is to enthrall, not leave them stuck and praying the phone rings to escape.

9. Be the best version of you.

You only have one chance to make a first impression, make it a unique one. Be polite and respectful. Everyone appreciates good manners.

10. Only ask questions that you are prepared to answer in return truthfully.

You will see how fast they skidaddle when you clam up about something, you've needed to ask them.

Refusing equal civility towards them by withholding the identical details.

11. Don't ask stupid, obvious questions.

If you're still not sure about something blatantly obvious, then disguise a follow up enquiry to get the details you need.

Otherwise once again, the listener loses all respect for you and thinks you lack insight.

When someone does that to me, I rip them apart with sarcasm. It's not hard to use your intelligence to grasp simple facts.