I believe on the whole you have one chance to make a good lasting impression. put your best foot forward, be polite, friendly, honest and well mannered.
However sometimes things can get in the way, like nerves, trying to over-impress, circumstances beyond your control.
While I'm really enjoying Married At First Sight, Australia, there are lots of recurring things that are said and seen.
One is, is it illegal not to have a tattoo? I've never seen so much ink on one show in all my life ha, insanity.
Secondly, if my family and friends don't like them, it's a dealbreaker. Hmmmm
For me it wouldn't be. I would certainly question Why they didn't like them and then make my own mind up, unless of course, there was something huge like lies, disrespect, those sorts of things.
Otherwise I would most likely say, I appreciate your input but as a grown woman, I like him, so he stays.
If a guy turned around and said, Listen honey lamb, babe, dollface, (ha I'm just having fun with pet names)..
If he said, my family/and or friends don't think you're right for me and I disagree but they've spoken, then I would find them quite spineless and sorry to say, too much of a Mama's boy.
Those tend to have over-inflated egos, like they are too good for anyone and can do no wrong, highly toxic.
And I wouldn't respect them at all. What if something I had said or done innocently was misinterpreted?
What if they were prejudiced?
What if they preferred the previous girlfriend? You don't know what the agenda is.
So I wouldn't fight for them or try to change their minds because they too are a grownup and if they want to let others rule their lives, they could be missing out.
Outsiders don't always see the positives that happen within a relationship, some people just focus on the negatives to others so it's not a balanced outlook.
Plus people like me, would appear standoffish due to being uncomfortable so I might not be free and easy and chatty.
I'd be worried about being bombarded with personal questions and my answer, none of your damn business, doesn't seem friendly ha.
Sometimes there is too much pressure to perform on display, for fear that you won't be liked and then you'll break up, ugh.
It wouldn't be the end of my world if the people he was closest too didn't like me.
I would just turn to him and say, I don't need to be liked, it's a shame they've formed that notion of me, but it is what it is.
What I want to know is, does that change your opinion of me?
The way I see it, I'm not a sociable person so I'd hardly be spending time with them, I don't enjoy groups of people at once.
It's difficult to follow the conversations and I would just feel pulled in different directions, instead of naturally chatting and possibly making a connection.
