#BlogLife1046 - Things women wish you knew..

1. Not all of us are desperate to settle down and make a family, we have made other life choices.

2. Not all of us are bitter, sometimes we have gone through unimaginable events which make us extremely cautious and closed off at times.

3. Independence is not a flaw, it doesn't mean I can't mingle, I just prefer my own company and doing my own non taxing things. I'm not sure why people are threatened by that.

4. I choose to be single and support myself, why is that so unfathomable for others? It's my life. There are always personal reasons, don't question it, accept it.

5. Sometimes I like attention, other times I don't but I'm always dressing to please myself so that I feel good and cute. I'm not trying to outshine anyone, be the centre of attention or be noticed.

6. I can be shy, confident, insecure and bubbly. I am not one thing, stop trying to pigeonhole me and figure me out. Women are beautiful and complex and need to be given time to gently reveal themselves naturally after a while.

7. I don't owe anybody anything. I choose to give my time or attention because I have decided that I want too, not because you are demanding it.

8. I'm no longer affectionate or too vulnerable because a lot of the reactions I received were cold and unfeeling and now I associate it with negative connotations but it doesn't make me any less of a woman. It may change over time, it may not.

9. My weight is my own business. What I eat is my concern. I know that I have worked hard to be somewhat healthy and made a lot of changes. My figure fluctuated until I found my formula.

But I am more than my appearance. Why should how I look be everyone's talking point? I am more than that.

10. I have my own mind. I choose how I get affected by how I am spoken too or how I am treated. You don't get to decide for me.... Aka too sensitive, too serious, not an open book, not a big sharer etc.

11. You don't know me better than I know myself. You see parts of me only. Don't make assumptions or judge or feel you can make personal deductions because you don't actually know the full story and it's unlikely I'll feel like divulging it.

12. Don't speak for me or guess what I'm trying to say. Let me communicate in my own way with my own words.

13. I choose to forgive or not too and it's a personal choice that I have thought about carefully. You can't influence my decision or guilt me. Most likely I'm sick of being disrespected and you've blown it. Be kinder next time.

14. I despise being called feisty or exotic!! I have opinions and a strong will, it's got nothing to do with my gender or appearance!

The exotic thing? Ickkk like being caramel skinned is rare, to be pointed out, as though we are not the same as everyone else.

15. If I act like I hate you during my period.... I do and I should be able to talk about how uncomfortable and yucky I feel, without embarrassing you or hearing, take drugs and the pain will go bye bye.

Why don't you go bye bye instead! Problem solved!