#BlogLife193 - His killer enquiries...

It sounds like a fiction title but today is about things men say that trigger my insecurities.

I've had it so much that I recognise it now and it's offputting and not something that I like.

It's definitely a deal-breaker. I got talking to a new random last night, let's call him I.

You know what the funny thing is? He can insult me all night (I actually wasn't taking it personally because I wasn't invested and I was snapping back so it was a bit of a back and forth).

But as soon as I said something really blunt because he wasn't getting a reference. He completely stopped talking.

I thought that was hysterical. He can dish dish dish but can't take it? Perhaps he should think twice, before trying to mess with me.

Q1) Do you have shapely legs?

Being a shortie at under 5ft7. I always think that means long and skinny legs.

I always say mine have meat on them.

His reply..... "Oh, that's a no then."

I have a love/hate relationship with my legs. My legs are acceptable but thighs are chunky.

Q2) Are you small and pert or an out of control size wise?

Of course the pervert is referring to cleavage sizes. Again I am pretty vague, assuming I even reply and just state.

They are not small and that's it.

His reply..... "Oh I see, not denying that you aren't perfect."

Initially my face is red and I have a few seconds of, hmm, why can't I be ideal for men?

Then I remember we are all wonderfully different in our bodies. We don't need to conform.

Men are so obsessed with.. It used to be adult magazines and now it's adult movies, seeing those skinny images and misconstruing that all women need to be the same, otherwise they are not attractive.

Q3) How long have you been single?

I never tell them the entire truth so for a laugh. I say it's been 20 years.

Then I just say, been a few years.

His reply.... "Are you that bad?"

I just explain that I am single by choice and leave it at that. I'm mostly just chuckling through his answers because it occurs to me, that he is purposely trying to make me feel bad but failing.

He continues making lil digs. I should hide the food away and stuff like that.

The men that I've dated have had a lot of the same attitudes, with the lil insults here and there and I used to let it get to me but now I just see them as twerps :D

The last thing I said to him was........ "You are pretty but so dumb."

I hadn't seen what he looked like but I softened the insult. He just said "That's rude."

He expected me to apologise and I figured after all the nonsense he had said. I don't feel bad or sorry. Haha!!!

Q4) What do you feel insecure about?

Do you see the direction the conversation has gone? It's not about my positives and what I feel proud about or my hopes and dreams but about his need to make me feel flawed.

I know by this point, he is waiting for me to say my figure but I refuse because I don't feel the least bit bad.

I actually feel even cuter and more voluptuous than before. I just say something about, my inability to control my temper lol.

His reply is... "Oh you seem scary."

I don't correct him at all. I can be, especially when someone is putting me down, in the guise of casual banter.

You could look at it like..........Oh SS he is just making chitchat. You're taking it too personally girl.

You know what men are like. Brains in their trousers. However I see it as the incorrect way to approach a woman.

Better questions would be....

A) Whatever your size is, are you comfortable in your skin?

B) When you're having a rough time, can you recommend something that cheers you up?

C) What features of your personality make you smile the most?

D) What do you like most about being single?

E) What do you look forward to each day?

F) You're quite enchanting, how do you make sure people don't take advantage?